If the heat pump can run for hours at a time, however you manage it, without overheating your house in Ipswich in the last few weeks then your heat pump is not significantly oversized.
With defrosts neither the 8kW unit or the 9kW will cover your heating requirements at the lowest temperatures we see in Ipswich.
You are contradicting yourself, you are trying to and are succeeding in getting the heat pump to run for hours at a time without cycling.
You will never be able to convince Octopus that it is too big.
In order to convince Octopus that it is the wrong heat pump you will need to demonstrate that the heat pump cannot operate for more than a few minutes at a time in mildly cool weather without overheating your house.
You also cannot show that the heat pump you have meets your design with some headroom as you have no data yet. I assume you got a BUS grant? If so, your heat pump must be able to heat your house at the design temperature.
You do really need to see how your heat pump performs when it is needed most before contemplating a change.
Changing the heat pump based only on data from the last few weeks is foolish.
When I had a 9kW Daikin installed they were new on the market and little was known about their performance.
I estimated my heat loss at 5kW or less based on historic gas usage where I heated the house to 20c plus all day and all night. It was pretty accurate. However, I knew nothing and neither did anybody else about these Daikin units.
I had one installer want to install a 14kW unit from Daikin and nobody else would install at my house so I was stuck with Octopus and Daikin.
I wanted a Vaillant.
It is fairly easy to find issues online with these Daikin heat pumps and I am surprised that you didn’t think about this before engaging Octopus to install the 9kW unit in your house with a heat loss of 7kW or so.
Did you do any research beforehand?
@Sam_Cooper I am sorry that my replies may seem a bit sharp and unfriendly. I am not unfriendly and will help in any way I can but my view is that it is better to give you a straight and direct opinion having been through the process than to dance around the issue without really addressing it.